One of my biggest realisations that I’m still coming to terms with is the fact that sometimes we do things for other people because its a way to ‘buy’ their approval. It explains why we say yes but what we really want to do is say no (and vice versa).
If you feel the same way or have the same realisation, you don’t need anyone’s approval. Be who you are and those who don’t ‘approve’ then seek company elsewhere not because they are wrong and you are right, but because it just wasn’t meant to be.
But ultimately, the greatest battle for us is self approval. Once we get that, then life truly begins to change.
Added: Of course, final approval comes from Allah Azza Wa Jalla and that’s all that matters.
Does that make sense?